- Show him with your hands
- Tell him with a pleasant voice
- Show him with a smile
- Tell him with kind words
- Show him by your actions
ACCEPTANCE
- Accept him for who he is
- When he starts doing little chores, don't automatically redo them when they aren't up to your expectations
- Do not be criticize
- Over time, as he grows, gently work to help him do better
- NEVER compare one child with another
SECURITY
- Begin early, give him as many new experiences as possible
- Praise and compliment your child when he earns it
- Never shame your child
- Prepare your child when he has to face something new or strange (like going to the dentist
- Be consistent
- Do not overprotect
CONTROL
Be a good example
Work on teaching "self-control"
Set limits early (and be consistent)
Use when not if (if is a bribe)
Be firm but never harsh
Tell your child "why"
Understand your child's feelings
Unless it is a dangerous situation, let him experience the consequences of his actions (no matter how hard it is to "save" him---which keeps him from learning)
GUIDANCE
INDEPENDENCE
I am a child of God, and He has sent me here,
Has given me an earthly home with parents kind and dear.
I am a child of God, and so my needs are great;
Help me to understand His words before it grows too late.
I am a child of God. Rich blessings are in store;
If I but learn to do His will I'll live with him once more.
Lead me, guide me, walk beside me, help me find the way.
Teach me all that I must do to live with Him someday.
Lead me, guide me, walk beside me, help me find the way
Teach me all that I must do to live with Him someday.
Naomi W. Randall
Set limits early (and be consistent)
Use when not if (if is a bribe)
Be firm but never harsh
Tell your child "why"
Understand your child's feelings
Unless it is a dangerous situation, let him experience the consequences of his actions (no matter how hard it is to "save" him---which keeps him from learning)
GUIDANCE
- Show your child things (what is safe and not safe, what he can touch, squeeze, or throw)
- Understand that your child is not grown up
- Give him a five minute "heads-up" when it is time to change activities (dinner, bedtime, clean-up, etc)
- Let him have some freedom
- Encourage lots of play
- Encourage him to share with others
- Teach him that his "wants" do not always come first
INDEPENDENCE
- Let him do things for himself
- Give him things to do
- Teach him about work
- Encourage him to finish a task
- Let him make a choice between two things when possible
RESPECT FOR OTHERS
- Talk about your concern for someone who is in need
- Teach (and remind) him that it hurts to be called names
- Teach your child that it is good to help others
- Encourage him to be polite
- Teach him to wait his turn
- Teach him not to interrupt
Above adapted from a handout in the days of typewriters and mimeographs. Original author unknown.
It is very important for each of us --- whether parent or child ---no matter who we are or where we are, to remember that we are each a precious child of our Father in Heaven who wants the very best for each of us.
I am a child of God, and He has sent me here,
Has given me an earthly home with parents kind and dear.
I am a child of God, and so my needs are great;
Help me to understand His words before it grows too late.
I am a child of God. Rich blessings are in store;
If I but learn to do His will I'll live with him once more.
Lead me, guide me, walk beside me, help me find the way.
Teach me all that I must do to live with Him someday.
Lead me, guide me, walk beside me, help me find the way
Teach me all that I must do to live with Him someday.
Naomi W. Randall
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